This research analyzes strategies used in the carrying out of marriages utilized by women who have been married for over 15 years, from high and middle classes and dwelling in the great Vitória/ES, for the overcoming or reduction of the conflicts in marital daily routine. Semi-structured interviews were used in approaching 20 women. The interviews which were tape recorded and written down, were analyzed in the light of the discourse analysis. In this paper, the strategies indicated by the interviewers were analyzed. It prevailed among women, the direct strategy (8 women), indirect (4 women) or both direct and indirect (8 women). The interviewers among husbands, indicated the use of direct strategy (13 men) or both direct and indirect (2). In five cases, the women stressed the use of indirect strategies, mainly the silence or the later search for the problem solution. The strategy was characterized as a hope for the women to reach the overcoming towards the utopia. The giving up of this game implicates the adoption of strategies that ensure paradoxical communication in which while the couple communicates, they avoid to communicate.
relationship marital; styles of to face; women
