Taking the quotidian as the methodological leverage of knowledge, we analyze the tensions resulting from the collision between different types of thinking. Namely, the opposition between imposing reflection (oriented towards the past) and transforming reflection (oriented towards the future) create dilemmatic situations, which lead the quotidian to be increasingly assumed as a field of negotiations, resistance, innovation and, consequently, dilemmas. Trivial quotidian dilemmas are analyzed, as using a tie, sexual behaviors or conducts in traffic jams. Our conclusion suggests that modernity should not only be understood as a blistering of options, that the subjectivation process is not opposed to socialization, and that individualization can generate a false awareness of liberation.
Quotidian; Identity; Reflexivity; Modernity; Socialization